Last night I showed my husband a marriage article I’m working on. It’s how we got through our darkest times. He was a bit frustrated because he doesn’t think you guys, my readers, get to see enough of just me. The every day me. The me, the us, separate from all of the heartache we’ve been through in the last few years. He grabbed his lap top and typed it up. So, today, instead of a serious marriage post, here’s Andy’s blog post on what it’s like being married to me. I hope you enjoy Andy’s perspective- I obviously do!
Alright, I’m not the writer in this relationship, but I wanted to take over this blog for a minute to give you an inside look into the woman behind the words, Jillian Benfield.
Jillian and I have been married for nine years today. Sometimes I can’t believe it. So much life has happened in those years. We literally grew up together. We learned what it was to be poor and happy. We learned to put each other’s needs above our own. We learned to fight constructively. We learned to grieve together. We learned to laugh in all circumstances. We learned to trust in God and in each other. We learned what it meant to have only each other. And man, were there times when it felt like we had only each other.
When I first met that beautiful curly headed porcelain doll on the front steps of my fraternity house all those years ago, I would have never imagined where we would be now. But I can honestly say, I wouldn’t change any of it. I think I have the best life. We have a beautiful marriage. I know all relationships and marriages are different, but I feel bad for people who don’t have a marriage as good as ours. We have our own “married language,” we make time for dinner dates at least once a week, we go out on the town at least once a month, and I will just say, if you haven’t read about “NO TV Tuesdays,” well then you should.
My point is, she’s my best friend. She’s intelligent (way smarter than me), talented (but you guys knew that), funny (I hope you guys get to see more of this) and an amazing mother to our children and wife to me.
Alright, now for the dirt you’ve been waiting for: Jillian snorts when she laughs really hard, can wiggle her ears, has an amazing singing voice, gets really scary when she’s hungry, is the most amazing chef I’ve ever met, often laughs in serious moments, stands on one leg like a flamingo when she’s thinking and really doesn’t like being tickled [there was more here but she got to edit some].
So, I know you guys get a peek into our lives every so often and an idea into what life is like behind the curtain, but just know that the woman behind those words, is the most genuine, hardworking, loving and talented person I know.
Until next year, folks.
Happy Anniversary, Babe. I love you.
Via, Jillian Benfield’s husband, Andy
