What To Say to the Grieving

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What To Say to the Grieving

What to say to the grieving

I want you to know I am here for all of it.

When you need someone to hear your ugly, I will listen.

When you need an escape, I will be your transport.

When you are angry, I will curse with you.

When your pain is too heavy to function, I will not minimize.

As your painful story unfolds, I will not insert myself into its pages.

I will not be perfect at this. I will fail at times. I will misstep. I will say the wrong thing.

But dear hurting one, know this: as the cruelty of the unexpected has brought your world to a stop; my world has slowed down. Because my heart hurts with yours.

One day, when you are ready to hope again, I will be there with a spotlight so you can see it clearly. And there is hope.

But until that day comes, I mean it when I say: I am here for all of it.

*What to say to the grieving

Jillian Benfield

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